1. I recommend you taking a look at the video at the Edge Pro Inc site, it is a new site and the video on the home page is very good, it will give you some great pointers. As for the burr, it is not necessary to remove the burr after each stone, now having said that, I do remove the burr prior to moving upward in grit but you can wait until the final stone, in your case the 4K to do this. This is a crucial step in sharpening as I am sure you know.
3. As Snipes is indicating, the lions share of time should be on your initial stone, that is the one that will get the knife sharp, don't progress to your 1k until the 500 stone has done it's job, this is where patience comes into play.
4. For the hone, same angle if possible. You can use the sharpie trick again on your edge with the hone to verify your angle and just sweep it over the hone ever so lightly, like your painting a stick of dynamite.
Good luck....watch the video at Ben Dale's site