12 hour shifts are short shifts, the FOH is an inherently selfish bunch as typically they work on individual TIPS (there are plenty of FOH teams
, but by far the minority), and male:female partners in the restaurant are much better than male:male partners... from my experience.
Look... I've been a cook into Chef for 24 years and have been tenacious enough & skilled enough to excel to upper echelon positions, but you have to be crazy or more often than not, just plain stupid, to enter this industry. No nights, no weekends, no holidays. 60/70/80/90/100/110 hour weeks depending on your constitution. Low pay. Poor work environments. Drug culture.
A moron enters this industry by choice... I fell into it.
Here's a pertinent read: new-job-could-use-some-advice-t1948-20.html?hilit=stroke